This is awkward.
I mean, I don’t even think this is appropriate. But I got here, so let’s just see how this goes.
From a guy to another, Alden, let me just start off with this: I know how you operate. In some way or another, all men are practically the same. We guard our feelings well. We use ambivalence and show disinterest even though we really like our girl. This is our defense mechanism. Back in our minds we know we must have a fall back position in the unfortunate eventuality that it does not work out too well. And the way we do that is to make it appear that we were not really that interested in the first place. Yeah, let’s be honest, even for just this once.
Some girls might find this a little bit sexist- I apologize and please understand that this is not my intention. This is what happens when we are too sincere- people sometimes get hurt. Nonetheless, let me elaborate on what I was going for.
Men usually use the same approaches when it comes to courtship. The most common of which is the giving of gifts. We don’t really know if girls fall for it, we know there are some that get offended, but most often than not, they do their job well. We can’t help it. I even dare say it is a human instinct, on the part of a man at least, to catch the attention of women by giving gifts. These gifts may cost a lot of money or they may not cost anything at all, but a gift is a gift is a gift. Believe me, men throughout history did some pretty grave things just to accomplish this. I remember I had to save up two weeks worth of my school allowance just so I can buy a gift for the girl that caught my affection. Did she actually like it? I don’t know. But I was proud of myself for being able to sacrifice hungry days just to get my girl something that she can remember me by.
Now back to what I was driving at.
This was the same approach you used, Alden. I saw what you did there. You started showering Maine with flowers, chocolates, teddy bears, food and whatnot. Oh, I know, your good looks alone can get you any girl that you want, but as men are as men will be- you chose to work it.
And the effect was undeniable. The look on Maine’s face, her demeanor, whenever she gets surprise gifts from you, is very revealing. Or her act is too good, well maybe. But anybody can see, there is something in her smile, in the sparkle of her eyes that says she appreciates the thoughtfulness. The more you press your charm the more she responds- like a child giggling every time she beholds her very first crush.
You have ensnared her. You were right there, Alden. You had her from the get-go. This was all too easy.
Until you got tested.
In one episode, Lola Nidora asked if you were already serious about your feelings, not with Yaya Dub, but with Maine. You hid behind your pillow and avoided a straight answer. (Edited: Credit to Kathleen)
Everybody gasped! That was a total letdown! That hurt like hell, man!
You messed up. BIG TIME.
I’m sure you saw the look on Maine’s face in the background, the disappointment was very apparent. I could have sworn she was secretly hoping that you would say, or at least “ACT” in the affirmative. That would have sealed the romance. But no, you chose to be playful about it.
Later that day, Maine took to twitter and said everybody should be calm and you two were just out there to make the fans happy, which you reiterated on your own twitter post. That same night, Maine posted a “sigh”.
Maybe I was a bit over dramatic. Maybe I just read into it a little bit deeper than I probably should have. That sigh could mean a million different things. Why I chose to relate that post with what happened earlier in the day, I don’t know. I just did.
But the following days Maine began to drift away. I sensed it. We all sensed it. I know that you sensed it. She was not the same. She regressed to the Yaya Dub character that the audience began to feel it, the acts became a bit humdrum, monotonous. The spark is no longer there.
But I give you credit you are one hell of a charmer! You started opening up and enamored her back where you want her to be. You begin to let your guard down and people started reading into you. You showed sincerity like you never did before. Maybe you realized this was something that can work out? I’m not sure. But you are that good, man.
The most apparent show of your real emotions happened during your first meeting. The spark between the two of you was unquestionable. Epic. The whole fandom was ecstatic, thrilled, and very thankful to have witnessed something that is quite possibly as real and as fascinating as the first ray of sunshine in the morning.
Maine later said, “It was nice seeing you…. so nice. I am very glad.” That was as honest an impression as it can be. I was captivated by the fact that she said a very simple phrase but dang! That hit the right spot! To which you responded quite casually, “Nice seeing you too, sayang hindi man lang ako naka shake hands sayo.” I was like, really? That’s it? That was your reply? You can do better than that! Oh well, maybe it was just me and my penchant for words that are overly melodramatic.
After that moment you came out a different man. We can sense the change in you. I can sense the change in you. Funny how well men can relate with other men- the more you wanted to hide your real feelings, the more they became very ostensive. You now wear your heart out on your sleeve. The second meeting proved that point, you were overcome with the moment and you bared your soul. We saw a different person in you, Alden- we saw Richard Reyes Faulkerson, Jr.
On your 2nd monthsary episode, a few days before your “first date” with Maine, you got caught red-handed again, with those really catchy clichés you did with your fan signs. Oh man, was I proud! I could have screamed at the top of my voice: Alden, you rock! And with this was a fervent prayer: Don’t you dare mess this up, man. Take really good care of this very precious princess. You don’t know how lucky you are.
The 12.1M day came. You looked dazzling, she was exquisite! Everybody was rooting for the both of you to finally get some time to talk with each other, to laugh together, to at least touch each other’s hand. But all that transpired fell short of our modest expectations. Were we disappointed? Hell yes! But eventually, we understood the reasons. That’s just us, the all too faithful fandom. We endure.
You were disappointed too, I can tell. I’m judging, yes, but come on man, maglolokohan pa ba tayo? The segment ended with you writing, “So close yet so far”. And I could swear I heard an alarm clock ringing, screaming for me to wake up from this all too familiar dreamy act. Isn’t that a tad bit too shabby, Alden? That line has been abused too many times, for too long. It was a bit inadequate, to tell you the truth. What with all emotions running high all over the world. And all over twitter world! Hah!
Then you wrote this: “But it was really nice seeing you” And that, my man, swept me off my feet! Suddenly, those same words from Maine after you first met flashed back in front of my eyes! It’s simplicity is what made it stupefying. It was so sincere my eyes welled up in horripilation!
There it is, in all its glory, the final validation. Dude, she got you! Nicomaine Dei Capili Mendoza got you real good! ~ Vilo
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I have to say I’m impressed with this thread. I have always wanted to express my opinion regarding my favorite love team but the fear of getting bullied has been stopping me. I’m saddened to watch M express her true feelings for A through her heartfelt poem, but obviously got heartbroken when his response was like, “Thank you, we will be friends forever”, with kisses to her forehead. Please don’t get me wrong. These are just my own observations. Another one was when the 2 were being teased by co-host and the guy said something like “Kung gusto mo ngayon na”. M said “Uy totoo talaga yung sinabi mo?”, but no satisfying response. My take on this is why call her with her real name? It is because he is falling with the real person or just to get people’s interest? I like him as an actor. I like him a lot actually but his actions are rather confusing. He keeps on referring to her real name but then goes back to all act. Is this all for show when the girl is obviously head over heels in love with him? Why be deceitful? How about you guys? Do you share the same opinion? If so, why? If not, why not? Thanks
@leela We’ve already discussed somewhere in this site the issue/s you have pointed out. I believe it is already settled.
I think Alden is hiding something, which I am not pretty sure what it is at this moment. I feel there is something wrong hence he could not express his true feelings towards Maine. No one can truly tell whether his acts of courtship for Maine are for reel or real. But one thing is clear to me, HE NEEDS MAINE!
Well said leela…. . I’ve been living abroad for 27 years and was never interested with showbiz business here abroad or the Philippines…. I can’t understanstand the hype and the gaganess of this Aldub nation phenomenon so I decided it’s worth checking out… Yes! I’m hooked!! Me! That likes to cuddle a book and a cup of tea is hook… I really admire the gift and the talent of this young lady Maine Mendoza.. I watched and did a kalyeserye marathon.. I can’t believe out of my busy schedule I’m looking forward to see the episodes… Yes ! I can see your point about the confusing relationship but it is still a show… I can see her falling for him . He is charming and easy on the eyes.. I think he has a lot to thank her for what is happening to him right now… If it was not a planned segment , she could have easily gave that flirtatious wave to any younger actor that would like to be on his shoes .Yes! The chemistry is overwhelming and as a woman I hope she will be strong enough to handle whatever the outcome of this relationship… The valentine poem was well said.. I think it pretty sum up what she’s afraid of. Myself also was surprised with his reaction but she’s a strong girl… She has her talent of corkiness and simplicity that will take her to a better horizon… It’s not an easy situation for both of them .. Trying to find and discover your your true feelings is hard enough to go through ,how much more to do it in front of the camera with over how many millions of tweets and social media concept of who You should be…I have my own “hallmark moments” that I like to see them together but for now let’s enjoy the ride.. To you Miss Maine Mendoza I’m a fan!! Keep it up girl you got it.
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Nenita Bernal said:
Alden, be consistent with ur answers sa mga interviews about your feelings with Maine,. Isa pa wag kang masyadong pacute sa mga girlss .Lahat na lng inaakbayan mo. Pati contestants sa Mr Chefs sa SPS, patitikimin m o lng gusto mo pang halikan.
Leah Cruz said:
I appreciate your keen observations…. but do you still feel the same way today?
Aimee Campano said:
Remember when they were interviewed by CNN his answered were all act n money. Maine is so safe to answer. For me UNTIL NOW IT’S ALL ACTINGAN LANG. MAINE IS A VERY GOOD PERSON. C GE HELP U NA LANG TO ACHIEVE UR GOAL MONEY WISE N UR FAMILY. ALDEN BEEN TAGGED AS GAMITERO.. CAN’T GET IT WHY MAINE ALWAYS SAY ” panindigan mo yan” or. ” yang totoo”.WHAT’S UP WID THAT???
Until now he still cannot say na mahal nya si Maine… couldn’t answer Tito Sen and Allan K’s questions..tsk tsk..
Sad but true…
They asked the wrong question kasi. It should be how much does he love his newfound fame, fortune and fans. His answer will be as fast as the torpedoes at “mahal na mahal” pa. Pak!
B Ocampo (@holly_heroes) said:
You must’ve missed the episode where Alden asked MAINE, NOT YAYA DUB OR DIVINA,and he said: MAINE MAHAL KITA, MAHAL MO BA KO? Which MAINE REPLIED: OO, MAHALDIN KITA ALDEN. and after that, as if restrictions were taken off, they freely show affections to each other. Watch EB live on FB.
Alden is not clearing up yet the issue about Giecel Nakamura.. WHY??? I just want him to stop lying to the fans who are “still clinging to them (ALDub) as if they are a real couple..” Niloloko ni Alden ibang mga ADN fans!
At this point, there’s no reason for either M or RJ to explain anything to anyone. No matter what they say or do, someone will have an opinion on it and will continue to bash them no matter what. Damned if they do, damned in they don’t. Frankly, I prefer them not to say anything at all and keep what they have private.
As for their respective managements, well….Sablan’s continued sablay actions speaks for itself. Based on his twitter posts (both pre and after AlDub) and IG posts, how the man got to be head of a PR department is beyond me (please enlighten me if the man has any redeeming qualities). APT and GMA are supposed to be partners but it’s very obvious that they are at odds in the direction that they want to take RJ and M. I’m sure their individual contracts have a lot to do with it, assuming that their current contracts are still pre-Aldub. But if the current contracts they have are after AlDub then I can only hold to my previous comments that both their managements have their own agendas and not necessarily for the good of their talents. But then again, they are in the business of generating money and most of the time they don’t care who gets sacrificed. I’m sure there are a lot of “politics” and power trips going on behind the scenes between their managements.
It’s also unfortunate, that they don’t seem to share the same vision as most of us who believe that RJ and M will go much further working together than apart. They seem to think that they would still be able to hold their current high even if they are partnered with someone else.